Fat or Curvy this is the problem…

In recent years, there have been many activist movements, which speak in support of women, who invite women to believe in themselves, not to feel inadequate even if with a few extra pounds ..they supported those, that have always felt insecure and ugly compared to other girls..And we have become convinced, we have begun to love this body which, especially in the adolescent period, has been a problem, a trap, something that made us hate the image that was reflected in the mirror, sometimes even distorting reality..

And this force that has grown in us, this armor that we have built around us, many times has had to avoid the jokes, the laughter, the strange looks, because as long as those people are nothing or little more does not hurt,but when those people are your best friend, your mother, your sister the people we love … there do not hurt you, they kill you, the armor we create collapses, and the vulnerability that we wanted to hide so much remains..

But then we dry the tears, we are now an age where we still convince ourselves that we can be loved for what we are, that we have to get up again, and show the world that no one can judge us but ourselves … and the strength increases so much that it keeps those who continue to wanting to judge us, to those who want to make us feel not enough.. And we succeed, we are stronger than before, to those who criticize our big ass, let’s say that it is morbid, who tells us that we have big thighs, say yes and love rubbing each other, our points of reference become only women like we are among the most famous Ashley Graham or Serena Williams and sure Beyoncé , we are our own strength, we are sure and we begin to believe in some small flattery from time to time, we no longer meet kids who consider us fat but men who appreciate having something to touch!we start to become safe, to dress so as to show our forms, without hiding behind huge sweaters, we feel confident to go to the beach or pool with friends and put ourselves in a bikini, because we like that, and if people there they really love they will appreciate it .. we believe.

Yes because it happens again, it will always happen that someone will come who will question what we believe, this someone can be a family member, your best friend, anyone who you care about it. And it will be hard, fight with that demon, that every time there they question the reappearance and try to destroy us … and tomorrow it will be just the beginning of a new challenge with ourselves, and the belief that we are not fat, we are not robust, we are not huge, we are women like all others who deserve feeling accepted, suitable and loved even if everyone does not like it.

IN MY NEXT LIFE I WANT TO BIRTH.. BITCH

Yes! I know, it is a very strong title, but put yourself in the shoes of who every day, every damn day, from the soul for everything, family friends work and colleagues (even if nobody deserves it) and then what you receive in return is , teases, disappointments, insults, offenses and many times stabbed as if nothing had happened.

So I analyzed the last 32 years and six months of my life, the last 11846 days of my life, and maybe I understood where I’m wrong .. I stress maybe I’m not so sure..

I hope this will be of help and support for all those who read,learn how to treat people as you are, do not show your feelings but above all your weaknesses, people even those who have your own blood, of your weaknesses will take advantage as a shark with a little fish..yes, because people do not care about trampling or using your feelings, even when you’ve given them their best, almost life … they’ll throw you in the basket like a little ball of paper, do not trust those who trust you … below draws you into its own trap, do not trust who tells you I love you, because it is ready to ask you something when you say “me too” trust only yourselves, your instincts and your strength .. because to be strong to be safe, we do not need false people who tell us, but of real evidence, of people who are close to us without asking nothing to expect.

I have understood in all this time, that I have taken it for granted that if you show affection you will receive it, and it is not true! to show affection, today is seen as a sign of weakness .. I understood that if you give the soul to some people these are there to mock you and make you feel silly and object to use at will.

then I remembered a period of my life that runs from 2003 to 2006 the 3 best years of my life, because I did not worry about anyone, because I had almost definitely closed with everyone I knew, because I understood that something was not went the right way, because I realized that as soon as I became attached I was stabbed, used .. after three years I met the university gang, and that their friends made me fall into a chasm from which I thought I would never go out again, being used and thrown just like nothing was hurts, and makes you build a wall around so you can not be destroyed anymore, from 2011 I opened my eyes, and I realized that I would never have to attach more to anyone, this up to 2016, when I thought I had finally found my balance among the people, but no! this was again a gesture on my part misinterpreted, people never love you just for the pleasure of loving, but because they want something .. for this and only for this I adjure you, do not become attached to anyone who enters your life , but only to those who love you primarily for what you are, and then without asking for anything in return.

This is not consent

in Ireland, after a girl has suffered sexual violence, it has also been subjected to psychological violence, who should defend it, the girl looked for it! that sleazy phrase, more than violence itself, it is not possible that in a world where the evolution of machines is going at the speed of light, the evolution of the human race is going to regress.
it is not possible that we are in 2018, and if a woman is abused, she must be told that she looked for it, because she wore a miniskirt, a tight-fitting trousers, a deep neckline or even the loincloth, I, a woman, must feel free to be able to wear anything you want, because that does not give consent or right to a beast to take advantage of me.I am with the movement #thisisnotconsent and I am close to all the women who have had to suffer this great and humiliating wrong after the agonizing pain of sexual violence … and to those who have this thought of saying that women are looking for her, you are accomplice and animal exactly like who does sexual violence.

Becoming Michelle Obama

As a woman, with values, as a sister, friend, aunt, daughter .. as a girl who comes from the outskirts of one of the cities of southern Italy, where poverty ignorance degradation and resignation are the masters, in Michelle Obama I found an example to follow, in my opinion was definitely the best American First Lady of all time, a girl who has made her own, descendant of a family arrived as slaves in America studied in one of the most prestigious colleges in the country .. encourages the girls do not give up and always believe in themselves .. and is close to those who really need .. I can not wait to read my new book #becomingmichelleobama and learn more and more about the most amazing icon , a young woman can have…

Why beard is sexy?

Ok, sometimes I like to talk (write) on my blog about the men style, working in a restaurant where neighborhood is all fashion offices, is not possible not to notice the male looks of the customers … many times they are disappointed by the bad taste of the people but those are details, and talking about details .. I want to talk about something that distinguishes the man from the boy .. for centuries now!!

THE BEARD

YES! always, men grow their beard to look more virile and masculine, rather than straight like a kid, and yet not everyone is fine, as a phrase read on Facebook says the beard does not work miracles, if you’re handsome, you’re beautiful with or without beard!

True! But why for all women (I did a survey) even if you can not look at the man with a beard is sexy to die for? and I do not speak of goatee or mustache, I speak of a beard that while talking with you constantly touches .. if there is something that I find sexy in a man and when he speaks he strokes his beard.. Soo sexy.But it is also true, that many bearded men take it off then they are not that great, I have many friends and colleagues who have a beard, but obviously there is what is good with and without, and what instead is almost without unwatchable..

Below now a rundown of men (famous) with a beard .. so you will understand why ..

Jason Momoa
Kit Harrington
David Beckham
Zayn Malik
Gerard Butler
Chris Hemsworth
Michael Huisman
Hugh Jackman
Tom Hardy

BOSTON

I was in Boston on December 3 last year, I state that I did the one-day tour, starting from Manhattan with the bus were about 3 hours of travel, we went through many cities, I saw all the wonderful American roads.

Provided that, for the next year I would like to return, to make at least a few more days ..I knew it was a city full of history but no, that was the city where the history of America was born, well I was enchanted by this magnificent city ..

In a single day, with everything there is to see ,you can not do it, I still intent on wanting to return I created my Road map on things to see and 3 days there are all!

The flight, calculating that I leave Milan, direct would be about 11 hours .. I know they are not few but believe me pass quickly,for accommodation, choose a hotel that is in a fairly central area ..Before leaving always mark the most important things to see that are:

1.Freedom Trail:The red concrete footpath, which runs through the entire city for 4km. Begin at the Boston Common Park Visitor Information Center, and end at the Bunker Hill Monument in Charlestown, touching the State House, Park Street Church, Granary Burying Ground (Boston’s oldest cemetery), America’s first public school, the statue of Ben Franklin, an ancient library, the Old State House (the oldest building in Boston), the site of the Massacre Massacre Massacre, the Faneuil Hall, the house of Paul Revere … in total, 16 must-see monuments to see (all)

2.Old North Church:The oldest church in Boston, located at 173 of Salem street, it is said that on the night of 18 April 1775 the sacristan Robert Newman hung two lanterns on the bell tower, signal agreed with Paul Revere to signal the approach, via water through the Charles River, of the British troops. With an epic ride, narrated in a famous poem by Henry W. Longfellow, Revere was able to warn the leaders of the insurrection: it was the beginning of the American Revolution.

3.Faneuil Hall:The history of the American Revolution has also passed from here: many famous speeches by patriots were held at Faneuil Hall. Today, in the four buildings that make up the market, you can walk, shop by walking carts and stalls or eat in one of the many restaurants and appreciate the many street artists that crowd the pedestrian area. The waterfront of Boston is just steps away, and watch the calendar: many musical and theatrical festivals are held here, and believe me is the most beautiful place, where to spend a carefree afternoon.

4.BOSTON PUBLIC GARDEN: What I noticed when visiting New York Washington and Boston is that the Americans, known for building magnificent skyscrapers, and ultra modern buildings, who still want to have a place to relax and enjoy the pleasures that only nature give you, that’s why I think the parks the best in the world, and the one in Boston is really beautiful ..

5. Paul Revere House: Boston is the cradle of the American Revolution, and the goldsmith-hero Paul Revere is one of the patriots symbol of that historical moment. A visit to his house, transformed into a museum, is a great way to approach a fundamental historical phase, and to see how we lived between the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries in the (future) United States of America: today about 90 percent of the house it is as it should have appeared in 1680, and a visitor center has just been opened to discover the life and art of Paul Revere.

6.HARVARD: one thing that makes America prestigious is its universities, and the oldest American university is that of Boston .. have you seen Harvard? exactly that! tell you that it was wonderful to walk through the avenues of the most famous college in the world and say little think, that in that university have studied two of the people that I admire most and who are as inspiring me as the Obama .. was crazy!

7.MASSACCHUSSETS STATE HOUSE : the legislature building of the state of Massachusetts is located in Boston, on a hill of Beacon Hill, really nice neighborhood, the dome will surely attract your attention, originally created in wood, was changed by too many water infiltrations and worked with the copper at the behest of Mr. Paul Revere, who at the time worked with copper and knew that there would be no more infiltrations.

8.KING’S CHAPEL :The beautiful stone chapel was erected in the second half of the eighteenth century, and is the one whose original form can still be seen today in the current structure. It was built on a previous sacred building, built entirely of wood, dating back to the end of the seventeenth century and wanted by King James II of England. The history of this building was quite troubled because the settlers did not want to sell their land to build a non-puritan church. The church, in fact, was to be a Catholic, Catholic place of worship just like the king who wanted to build it. After several adventures, however, the king found a free land in a public cemetery where he saw his wish fulfilled.

9. TEA PARTY BOSTON MUSEUM: It is said that it was one of the causes of the American War of Independence, and it is said that to flow It was a group of young Americans who sivestì from Indians and once salutes on English ships threw tons of tea into the river ..I’ve been there, and I must say that the museum (very small) the moored ship and the little shop deserve to be visited!!

10. CELTICS AND RED SOX: EVERYONE knows that for Americans two sports are very important baseball and basketball ,and Boston boasts two great teams in this, Baseball the much-loved Red Sox, the team has always been in mayor league, the team was founded in 1901 and has won hundreds of prizes and championships ..

But I want to say you only one thing, from my heart to all of you, travel is a moment for ourselves to feel good, Don’t follow the words of tourist guides, travel bloggers, journalists or those who have said that trip before you, as I suggest you, too, mark the places that are really worth seeing, and organize your trip like experienced travelers and enjoy every second every second .. every corner and breathe deeply the air around you .. so you’ll love all the places you visit.

ANGELS IN THE CITY

Perhaps the only most anticipated fashion show in the world .. the only day when even the most beautiful woman feels a monster compared to Victoria’s angels. Obviously I’m talking about the Victoria’s Secret fashion show, this year the location is that of the origins dating back to 1995, Hotel Plaza, but if for the most famous brand in the world of underwear is a return to the roots, for someone else is the end of an era, announcing his retirement just last night, Adriana Lima says goodbye to angel wings.

The show held almost completely secret until the last moment was magnificent. Starting from the Pink Carpet, where celebrities from all over have paraded, and the famous mothers of the last angels, Hadid sisters and Kendall Jenner,
the show also saw the presentation of Mary Katrantzou’s first collection for VS.Obviously everyone knows that during the parade there are bands, singers and others who accompany the girls along the catwalk, yesterday it was the turn of Rita Ora, Shawn Mendes ,The StrutsTo quote the most famous ones. The models are obviously so many and beautiful, even if every year too thin comments, there were the veterans Adriana Lima Candice Swanepoel Barbara Pavlin and Sara Sampaio, the newcomers Stella Maxwell Winnie Warlow Gigi and Bella Hadid and Kendall Jenner and many others, like the wife of the Maroon 5 frontman who, just a few months after the birth of the second daughter, was more informative than before (shocking).

Now the gallery..

Men and Chat

For a short time .. four months, I was enrolled in a chat, to meet people, actually promises to make you meet the love of your life, but what I can assure you and that you almost always know only human cases … I admit that I also met a very kind gentle person and I will not talk to you, I only tell you that he can give hopes to the world when we say that gentlemen do not exist, it is not true..Going back to human cases, I can tell you that there are three categories of men in the chat..

1. THE DISGUSTING: they are the ones that often start the chat rocket starting, and saying things pushed as a beginning, they present themselves as super gifted, personally from certain subjects it is better to stay away

2THE “ONLY FOR SEX”: This category, very similar to the first one is slightly more disgusting because many times, indeed always, there are married men and boyfriends, and here I tell you about one who called himself (angel’s face) who already there .. forget it, one night writes me:

-hi …… You have really beautiful eyes

so far nothing to say, then ask me my real name shows up and tells me where it comes from ..everything is ok, we talk almost an hour, of our hobbies, the common passion for travel, it seemed almost a perfect man ..until he tells me .. but are you a blow and away?thing? are you kidding? keep calm if not I can seem sour or hysterical. . and I ask him why he asked me such a direct question, and he tells me about his ordeal .. poor innocent little poop .. 🤢🤮

This “man” was married for four years with the wife he had met at the university 8 years before, so if math does not deceive me it is about 12 years that poor woman is staying with him, and now that they are married and have had a child (2 years this little angel) he has understood not to love her, but since she for the love of her son had given up her career as a lawyer .. he was afraid to leave her not to lose her underwear so she was there chatting for a simple night of madness .. with nothing to claim ..after a laugh written in large letters, I told him how disgusting and how much he makes me, and I asked him why? why marry a person and then go with others …after having blocked it, I asked the “computer” that does research for you, a man without children and not married .. not even a widower (many invent deceased wives to catch)

2. EGOCENTRICS: We know it is one of the best qualities of men, and when they start they do not know how to stop.it happened to me a case where, we talked about travels and photographs and started a monologue that never ended, to read what he had written I took 4 minutes (counted) talking about his passion for travel, that he knows how to organize everything in the smallest detail, which is a very good photographer, but it’s only for hobby, that every place is a different achievement, I’m talking about women,that women when they see it melt like ice lollies, who has a physical gym without doing gym and eating everything he likes (I admit I got a damn bastard you and your metabolism fast)after a while I realized that he was the only one who spoke, and that only he was talking about him .. I wondered how and I say with a hand on my heart how it is possible for us women to come across such specimens without throwing a punch at them nose?

3. DISCRIMINATORS: They are those beings that when they start a chat, they start with why here? the answer could be easy and painful, so you understand that maybe it falls into the previous categories and you pull the hand brake.to meet new people, is the most popular answer, the problem is the counter answers, comments, that many times if the type seems interesting overflows .. as the computer technician, the computer said we had 9 points out of 10 in common, in practice the man of my life, love the quiet evenings, beer-type night with friends, lover of jazz travel, of all that I liked in 9 points out of 10 .. it was from WOW right away, we started asking questions , or rather I seemed to be at a quiz, then started with phrases like, not just a job for women, it is not normal to have only male friends, it is not normal for a woman to travel alone .. and I started IS NOT NORMAL THAT I AM CHATTING WITH YOU!

the categories are many, but I would end up writing a book rather than a post, so I conclude by saying that men do not go chatting to find the woman of their life, or their best friend .. NO! Men take advantage of the vulnerability and the need to be loved by many women, men when they look at a profile, they do not read what you carefully write down in detail, the men look at the picture, if you’re just an average beauty, if you have a profile photo that almost can not be seen, then no you are to be discarded, if then they see the one that as a photo sells its merchandise then yes! because what they want is just an adventure, just take you to bed, it does not matter that after you will suffer for them, many do not care!and do not listen to the friend who tells you that her cousin has met a man in the chat and now they are married and live happily ever after, LIARS! a real man, is not courted but courts, a real man does not write you that will do unforgettable things and then after two minutes sleep fatigue .. a real man if he loves his woman does not go looking for adventures in chat .. a true man .. to find them!

NEWYORK

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I fell in love with New York, when I was just 10 years, Geography lesson, one of my favorite subjects, because when we studied the places I never visited, I DREAM with open eyes that one day I would be there .. and when I saw the photos of the twin towers, on the school book, and the teacher had a film projected on Newyork, I fell in love with madness, I was 10, and today almost 33 years, I’ve been there 4 times, and I’m planning a fifth , for my 33rd birthday..

So I decided to write about the city that I love most in the world, what must be seen once you are there for the first time.
To be calculated first, that to visit New York for the first time and see it all, it takes at least 6 days.

THE ARRIVAL

NY, has 3 wonderful airports, for those coming from Europe it is easier to find flights landing at JFK, because the other two are for domestic flights.

The JFK, is located in Queens, a neighborhood reborn, after the degradation of the 80s, moving to Manhattan is very easy, there are trains and buses at all hours, rivers of taxis and cars and private buses that can also be booked from europe itself.

ACCOMMODATION:

Staying in Manhattan, it’s easy there are millions of hotel hosts, houses for rent ..
First of all you have to understand what kind of accommodation I wish on my first trip I was a guest and I stayed at the ONE Millenium hotel, near the United Nations building, it was my first time in a 5 star hotel, and it was crazy to wake up every morning looking at the east river from the 22nd floor, the next several times was different. Because every time is an area, a different road, because every time must be special, but from these experiences I understand what is the area where you have to stay to be in the center or almost Manhattan, the answer is obviously TIME SQUARE, and not I’m telling you to stay precise in Time Square, because you would risk not sleeping.

So I would opt for the sixth / week avenue, or the 46th up, or to go down to the 38th.
For budgets you have to follow your instincts and wallets, remember that NewYork is for every budget but you have to use your head.

After finding the best accommodation for you, it’s time to think about visiting the city.

THE TOP 10

To be premised that it must be visited throughout, from top to bottom, but since you can not always see everything you must have a list of “must see”

1: TOP OF THE ROCK: better known as the Rockefeller Center terrace, from there, you will see all of Manhattan and its surroundings, of course there are also Empire and Freedom tower that I will put on the list, but from here, consider what I did, arrive in the late afternoon in Manhattan, climb the TOP OF THE ROCK and admire the sunset over the city, the sunset that kisses the skyscrapers of NY and the first lights that light up, like those of EMPIRE, I think it’s a thing to do as soon as you arrive.

2. ROCKFELLER CENTER, especially if you go to NY in the winter, absolutely deserves to be visited, with its beautiful tree (icon of Christmas trees) and with the skating rink is one of the most magical places in the Christmas period.
But no problem if you go there at any other time of the year, because with its wonderful tables to have lunch or simply drink something surrounded by thousands of shops you will feel very New Yorkers.

3. TIME SQUARE, the fulcrum, the center, the navel of Manhattan, the most fascinating place in the world, millions of people pass by every day, the square where it always seems day.

4. STATUE OF LIBERTY, from any perspective you look at it is wonderful, I suggest you, to run to Battery Park and make one of those ferry tickets, stop first at liberty island, and then Ellis Island.

5. GROUND ZERO, the attack on the Twin Towers, the attack on my beloved NY, hit me deep in my heart, I loved that symbol of NewYork, and I dreamed of climbing and touching the sky from there, unfortunately, the monster of terrorism, has broken 2974 lives of innocent souls, and millions of hearts.
over the years they have been reborn scratch, and its rebirth is a demonstration of how strong the entire population of New York is.
My first time there dates back to 2012, and raise my eyes to the sky near the two wonderful fountains created to commemorate the names and never forget what happened, well I cried like never before, I saw all the scenes in my eyes .
Then I went there in 2014 with my mother, and they were finishing the museum in memory of 911, so when I returned in 2016, for the fifteen years, of the attack, and I could visit the NATIONAL 911 MUSEUM, it deserves to be visited, to understand the suffering of an entire nation.

6. CENTRAL PARK: it’s the biggest park I’ve ever seen, beautiful, history and the hub of Manhattan, it’s great and to visit it all (please do it on foot) it really takes a three or four hours, but believe me it’s worth the penalty, there are, the baseball fields, the rides of children, the Bethesda Terrace, one of the most beautiful places in NY, seen in hundreds of films, go there on a beautiful sunny day and tell me if it was worth it .

7. BROOKLYN BRIDGE: imagine the sunrise a hot coffee in the right hand, the camera, in the other and put yourself in the middle of the Brooklyn Bridge in the middle between the two cities, and wait for the sunrise to kiss the skyscrapers of in Manhattan and close to the Brooklyn promenade, my friends believe is the most poetic thing ever made.

8. FIFTH AVENUE, it is not a matter of shopping, but on the fifth avenue, the very famous fifth avenue, there are the museums, the shops, the galleries and the most beautiful parks, find the NYPL, the MET, THE EMPIRE STATE BUILDING .. more.

9. PROMENADE BROOKLYN HEIGHTS, Manhattan is spectacular, but also the other neighborhoods are not far behind, the first three trips I had never approached Brooklyn, but in December 2017, I decided that I had to visit it, because a true lover of New York must see everything, and do not stop at the glistening.Then I took the train from time square, and I rushed to see Brooklyn, crazy, beautiful, in all its streets, streets that took me to the Promenade first and then to Dumbo, from this side of the Manhattan river is divine.

10. SHOPPING, everywhere and for all budgets, NewYork, both for food and shopping, NY, is for all budgets, so anyone will tell you that you can not afford it, do not believe it and pack your bags because at least once in your life you have to take a trip like this.

believe me you can visit all the most beautiful places in the world, but at least once in your life, you must visit, because new york will take your heart.